We operate under a community-moderated model and expect our members to speak up when they observe others not interacting according to the rules and principles. These serve as a general idea of the culture we promote in our forums. If there is ever any doubt, you can ask a moderator. Our current network of groups and projects can be found here.
The Science & Skepticism Collaboration serves as our hub where we can collaborate between the various sub-groups and is also a place where the general audience can ask questions in a calmer, more patient environment. It’s a good group to start in. The subgroups are more focused on adding information to the knowledge-base and debating more advanced topics. In our subgroups, we want to advance the conversation. Since we save many of our discussions and resources in dedicated threads, those can be explored and/or new information added on subjects that have been discussed in our forums previously.
To add depth to our discussions, and help people feel more welcome and less overwhelmed, we have a “sidebar threads” option. Any member may request a sidebar thread with another member for a one-to-one discussion without interference from others (except moderators if need be). You may ask a moderator for help setting up and managing a sidebar thread.
If a member makes an inflammatory post (pro or anti), a sidebar may be started immediately. Another alternative is to wait and see how the community handles it. If waiting is chosen, then a sidebar should be started when it looks like the thread is getting out of hand (i.e. disrespectful comments, dogpiling, etc), but timing is important because it needs to be started before the OP leaves the conversation. The sidebar is initiated by starting a new post (make sure to tag the member who is being engaged) and saying something like this:
SIDEBAR THREAD BETWEEN KERRI BURSON AND JOHN DOE
John - I am starting this thread in order to discuss your concerns and issues one on one. This option is a way to help people feel more welcome and less overwhelmed. Let's start with this claim X that you made and, once we find common ground on that, we will move on to the next one.
Other members - This is a one on one thread. Comments from anyone other than the two participants, and anyone who they tag in as needed, will be deleted. Thank you.
If a non-mod starts the sidebar, then a mod will need to help with deleting comments. Go to the pinned thread, put a link to the sidebar, and ask the mods to assist with deleting comments from members who should not be participating. Or, tag the mods directly in the sidebar thread and ask for their assistance.